My Solemn Vow – Marriage, a beautiful vocation!

Tonight at dinner, a few of the men and I were discussing marriage. More specifically the great love that couples have for one another. We were discussing about friends and family members who after dying, their spouse dies a short time later. Marriage is a great and beautiful vocation. As we near our Spring Break at Bishop Bruté, I am reminded that we normally start to hear men stand up and announce that they are discerning out of seminary, and discerning where else God is calling them in life. Normally, it leads to marriage. Let us pray for good holy vocations to Marriage, for a greater respect for marriage in our country and for a greater sense of the sacramental nature of marriage. Please also pray for those men who will be announcing that they are discerning out of seminary, that God will be with them, grant them peace in their discernment and his joy in life. Phillip Stopford, who wrote “Do Not Be Afraid” that we sang a while back also composed: “My Solemn Vow,” the attached video. Enjoy it! It is of marriage vows set to music and it brought me to tears! In the video, tenor and soprano sing their vows to one another.

To close, here is a line from a book that has always stood out to me: “There is a legend about a bird which sings just once in its life, more sweetly than any other creature on the face of the earth. From the moment it leaves the nest it searches for a thorn tree, and does not rest until it has found one. Then singing among the savage branches, it impales itself upon the largest, sharpest spine. And, dying it rises above its own agony to out-carol the lark and the nightingale. One superlative song, existence the price. But the whole world stills to listen, and God in His heaven smiles. For the best is only bought at the cost of great pain…. Or so says the legend.” – The Thornbirds (Yes, I know that the book doesn’t portray certain things correctly, the quote is quite lovely though.)

Marriage is a beautiful vocation, many are called, others are not. What are you called to? How are you answering your vocation? Couples, religious, and priests all take vows. Which will you choose or have chosen? What is your Solemn Vow?

Marriage isn’t for you, it’s for God!


Everyone seems to have been posting the article on how “Marriage isn’t for you.” This is a response, that brings up an important part that the article missed. It may take two to tango, but it takes three to get married. We as Catholics, believe that marriage is a sacramental covenant between man and woman. It is a sacramental sign of the union to come later when God-willing we reach Heaven. Marriage isn’t for you, true. It’s not self-centered, but it is supposed to be God-centered. We miss that a lot in our culture. With the whole homo-sexual marriage debate, people try to say that they can get married to whoever they want, because they want to live for them, love them, be sacrificial for them, but they are missing the most important part.

We as humans were made for God. St. Augustine’s famous quote about how we were are restless until we rest in Him, speaks volumes. From the moment of our birth we are dying, we are plummeting in an unstoppable path toward death. God created us for himself. We sinned, thus our punishment is death. When we die, we go to either Heaven or Hell, no if’s, and’s, or but’s about it. We are headed toward death, and hopefully to eternal union with God in Heaven.

Marriage is a sign of the union we have with God in Heaven. It is designed for spouses to help each other to get to Heaven. That is the first question that should ever be asked, when considering marrying a person. “Are they, going to help me get to Heaven?” If not, then you probably shouldn’t marry them. Marriage isn’t for you, it’s for Eternity. Marriage is for God. Marriage requires God, and without him in the mix, it surely will have a hard time standing.

Pray for all those couples that you know who are approaching marriage. Pray for them to be holy, and include God in their marriage. Pray that the fruit of their marriage, will be for the glory of God. Pray for them. Pray for each other. If you’re not married, pray for your future spouse. Marriage isn’t for you. It’s for God.


Below are the original post, and the post which inspired my post.

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